Irresponsibility will SHOW. Period.

Do you try to do it all alone? And then when you can’t manage - look for validation in the wrong places?

I ask these important questions because this was the emotional cycle of my past. And while I don’t love sharing this story - I feel strongly that I need to. It’s a necessity to truly understand WHY I’m so passionate about where I am now and my quest to help others as a wellness coach.

In high school, I was nominated for party viking. In college, I was known for chugging beers faster than all the guys. And truthfully - I wore those things around like a badge of honor that led to nothing but inconsiderate, destructive, hurtful behavior - towards myself and others.

As I’ve grown older, it’s become vividly clear that true health stems from the inside. It’s not a body type. It’s not six pack abs. It’s not low carb, no carb, keto or 21 day fix. It’s not a crash course. It’s not an overnight solution.

HEALTH is the WHOLE package - starting at your core - and it’s something you must CHOOSE to work on - from the inside out - for the duration of your life.

For years, my core was broken. I didn’t have the understanding and direction I needed inside of me to search for validation in productive, healthy ways. I had plenty of amazing outside influencers, but I DIDN’T CHOOSE to “get it”.

Instead, I searched for validation, purpose and acceptance in all the wrong places - booze, boys, food, popularity. And because of it, I was a bully. I was inconsiderate. I had no idea who I was. No clue what I wanted. And I was unhappy. Unhealthy. Unsure. Suffering from total emotional turmoil.

Maybe you can relate to this. Maybe not. But I know the turmoil I experienced happens for many and it’s not talked about nearly enough…

I don’t regret the fun I had. I don’t regret the people or the places. But I do regret - greatly - how my irresponsibility led to choices that hurt OTHER people, and myself, and now, that’s something I live with and have to work through every single day.

Here’s the lesson: Irresponsibility will NEVER leave you. NEVER. It will show up in your life in some way. Whether that’s financially in your bank account, physically on your waistline, emotionally in your heart, mentally in your head or spiritually in your soul. If you don’t take responsibility to learn what makes you feel like your best self, it will show. PERIOD.

Choosing to be irresponsible when it comes to KNOWING your own needs will leave you feeling empty, lost and searching for validation in the wrong ways. I know because I lived there. I know because I now carry my irresponsible past with me. And with each passing day - I’m slowly learning how to patch it up and let it go.

Whether you’re trying to lose weight, want to get out of debt, want to deepen you relationship with God and others, want to find your purpose, live out your passion, or for goodness sakes - JUST BE YOU - then YOU have to take on the responsibility, in the deepest part of your core - to make the DAILY choices to move in a way that truly fills your cup. That actually inspires you. That wholeheartedly has your best interests and priorities at heart.

How do you do that? Ask yourself the hard questions. PINPOINT what the heck you’ve been trying to “fake” for so long and ask yourself WHY? Dig deep - because when you do, you won’t believe the little imperfections you uncover and even better, how many people can relate to them once you share!

Be responsible friends. Your heart and soul need you to make that choice. When you live in ways that feel empty, you learn to over appreciate and want to SHOUT FROM THE ROOFTOPS when you start living in ways that overflow with love and joy and fulfillment like you haven’t experienced before.

That’s why I’m so passionate about what I do as a coach. That’s I preach whole wellness and striving for health. Because I want you to know - it’s never too late to learn, evolve and change the direction of your life.